“We have a solution . . .
We don’t claim it’s for everybody, but for us it works. If you identify with us and think you may share our problem, we’d like to share our solution with you.”
– Sexaholics Anonymous White Book, page 2
We Suggest Taking These Next Steps
Sobriety Begins with Meetings and Support
We suggest that people attend at at least 3 meetings before deciding whether of not they need support of a Twelve Step addiction program for sexual addiction.
To the Newcomer, A Caution
We suggest that newcomers to Sexaholics Anonymous not reveal their sexual past to a spouse or family member who does not already know of it, without careful consideration and a period of sexual sobriety, and even then, only after prior discussion with an SA sponsor or group. Typically, when we come into the program, we want to share our excitement with those closest to us and tell all right away. Such disclosures might injure family or others and should be confined to the group of which we are a part until a wise course is indicated. Of course, if there is any chance we have put others in danger, we take immediate steps to try to correct that.
Few things can so damage the possibility of healing in a family as a premature confession to spouse or family where sacred bonds and trust have been violated. Unwittingly, such confessions can be attempts on our part to dump our guilt, get back into good graces, or make just another show of willpower. Great caution is advised here.
Amends to family must begin with a sexually sober, changed attitude and behavior on a daily basis. Then, as we grow in recovery, we will find how to make direct amends. Help from sponsor and group is indispensable here. There’s always a way if we really want to make things right.
Sexaholics Anonymous. pp.1-3 [aka White Book.]
Copyright © 1989, 2001 SA Literature.
Reprinted with permission of SA Literature.