To The Newcomer – SEXAHOLICS ANONYMOUS South Central Texas

“We have a solution . . .

We don’t claim it’s for everybody, but for us it works. If you identify with us and think you may share our problem, we’d like to share our solution with you.”

– Sexaholics Anonymous White Book, page 2

We Suggest Taking These Next Steps

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Are You a Sexaholic?

Only you can decide if you are a Sexaholic. Honestly answer the following questions to determine if you have any issues with lust, pornography or sexually acting out.

Your identity is anonymous.

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1. Have you ever thought you needed help for your sexual thinking or behavior?

Yes

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2. That you’d be better off if you didn’t keep “giving in”?

Yes

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3. That sex or stimuli are controlling you?

Yes

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4. Have you ever tried to stop or limit doing what you felt was wrong in your sexual behavior?

Yes

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5. Do you resort to sex to escape, relieve anxiety, or because you can’t cope?

Yes

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6. Do you feel guilt, remorse or depression afterward?

Yes

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7. Has your pursuit of sex become more compulsive?

Yes

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8. Does it interfere with relations with your spouse?

Yes

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9. Do you have to resort to images or memories during sex?

Yes

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10. Does an irresistible impulse arise when the other party makes the overtures or sex is offered?

Yes

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11. Do you keep going from one “relationship” or lover to another?

Yes

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12. Do you feel the “right relationship” would help you stop lusting, masturbating, or being so promiscuous?

Yes

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13. Do you have a destructive need—a desperate sexual or emotional need for someone?

Yes

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14. Does pursuit of sex make you careless for yourself or the welfare of your family or others?

Yes

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15. Has your effectiveness or concentration decreased as sex has become more compulsive?

Yes

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16. Do you lose time from work for it?

Yes

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17. Do you turn to a lower environment when pursuing sex?

Yes

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18. Do you want to get away from the sex partner as soon as possible after the act?

Yes

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19. Although your spouse is sexually compatible, do you still masturbate or have sex with others?

Yes

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20. Have you ever been arrested for a sex-related offense?

Yes

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Sobriety Begins with Meetings and Support

We suggest that people attend at at least 3 meetings before deciding whether of not they need support of a Twelve Step addiction program for sexual addiction.

Find an SA Sponsor

A sponsor is a sexually sober member who has also worked the Twelve Steps of SA with a sponsor.

Make Connections with Others

Connect with other SA members every day, especially when struggling with lust, fantasy and sexually acting out.

Replace Lust, Porn and Sex with SA Meetings

Recall the number of hours a week you engaged in your addiction. Then commit to attending at least two or three meetings a week.

Tap Into SA Recovery Resources

Our SA fellowship is rich in resources. Tap into program literature, readings and our audio library to learn more about the miracles of recovery.

Learn How to Be Honest with Others!

We are only as sick as my secrets! Rigorous honesty is imperative when communicating with others.

Learn How to be Honest with Yourself!

In our addiction, we begin to believe the lies we tell others. In recovery, we learn how to become rigorously honest with ourselves.

Experience, Strength and Hope through SA Approved Literature

We learn about sobriety and how to work the Twelve Steps of SA using SA-approved literature.

Begin Working the Twelve Steps

Once we are sober, we work the SA Twelve Steps with our sponsor and we begin to experience life in the light of recovery.

To the Newcomer, A Caution

We suggest that newcomers to Sexaholics Anonymous not reveal their sexual past to a spouse or family member who does not already know of it, without careful consideration and a period of sexual sobriety, and even then, only after prior discussion with an SA sponsor or group. Typically, when we come into the program, we want to share our excitement with those closest to us and tell all right away. Such disclosures might injure family or others and should be confined to the group of which we are a part until a wise course is indicated. Of course, if there is any chance we have put others in danger, we take immediate steps to try to correct that.

Few things can so damage the possibility of healing in a family as a premature confession to spouse or family where sacred bonds and trust have been violated. Unwittingly, such confessions can be attempts on our part to dump our guilt, get back into good graces, or make just another show of willpower. Great caution is advised here.

Amends to family must begin with a sexually sober, changed attitude and behavior on a daily basis. Then, as we grow in recovery, we will find how to make direct amends. Help from sponsor and group is indispensable here. There’s always a way if we really want to make things right.